I didn’t ask her to stop. I didn’t even take the blade away. I simply asked what happened. “My psychiatrist said I’m acting like a bitch,” she replied.
My heart sank for this 16-year old girl and all she had been through, while simultaneously becoming infuriated with the one professional whose duty it was to help her instead of pushing her further to harm.
I talked to Erika and as a result she stopped hurting herself. Me, the other 16 year old, who didn’t have a doctorate degree, and had my own set of wrist scars.
That day I was overcome with a responsibility, a passion and relentless drive, to help people like Erika find hope, peace, freedom, and relief from their past so that they can become all they desire and dream of; the person they were created to be before they were abused, neglected, or experienced trauma.
At that time I was in no position to trade the therapist’s couch for the therapist’s chair, so I became my own guinea pig and went on to spend the rest of my life learning psychology and helping people in various ways break free from their past and restore themselves to the person inside who is able to thrive – not just survive.
From earning my Bachelor’s of Science Degree in Psychology, to writing for “To Write Love On Her Arms”, to getting a jewelry design patent for raising money to help people who couldn’t afford therapy, to helping impact-driven authors market their books so their messages would help change lives for the better, to now writing my own books and coaching high-performers who have overcome against all odds but still need an outside perspective to keep them from getting stuck so they can be – and achieve – all they envision…
Everything I have done – professionally and personally – over the last 17 years, since walking into Erika’s room that day, has been for the purpose of empowering people to find hope and obtain freedom so their past doesn’t win.
I’ve always been an open book, sharing my experiences and insights with anyone who would benefit. I’ve never been ashamed of what I’ve lived through. I’ve always believed in sharing the things most people want to hide, in order to help others maneuver their way through life more easily and more successfully.
If my sharing helps people not struggle or suffer needlessly, then it’s my responsibility and my joy to do so.
It brings me great fulfillment to have find my own way out of hell-on-earth, and have the privilege of showing people the shortcut (the “secret door”) so they, too, can live the life they’ve dreamed of but – until now – has remained constantly just out of reach.